Lessons are vital in our existence. We need to learn to be able to grow to the person we have always wanted to be. Some lessons are hard and repetitive but at the end of the day, we get something from it. Never frown at life's lessons. They're here to help us, to make us mature, to lead us to the best way possible.
Mama and Papa learnt a whole bunch of lessons the moment you were born. How ironic is it that our irresponsibility made us responsible. With that being said, the moment you were born, our whole universe shifted. Everything we do is for you. Countless of choices and thoughts circled our mind. From schools to names to what you're going to wear home to everything.
My light, Mama loves planning but I know you know that by now. Which is why I made you this e-letter for you to know my deepest thoughts while I'm young and open to telling you everything. I hope there will never come a time that I am too busy to tell you things you want to know or stories you want to hear.
The bullets that will follow are the things mama has learned but I want you to always remember them and tuck them safely in your heart.
- Don't complain what you tolerate. Love, I don't want you to ever tolerate things you don't want. If you hate something, you speak your mind BUT with utmost respect. I want you to know that when you let people do something negatively to you or anything that you do not like, they will think that it is okay because you never said anything about it but how are they supposed to know? You always let people know your feelings; speak your mind but you have to do so without sounding so crude.
- Contrary to what I have grown accustomed to, respect is not something you give automatically to people who are older than you. Respect is something you have to earn from someone. Much more like trust. It doesn't mean though that you have to be impertinent. You always have to speak with grace even if you don't like the person so much. Always remember that respect is a two-way street.
- Always be considerate. Even if you grow to be the president of the country or some CEO or a lawyer or a doctor or anyone with high respect and honor or just anyone, you always have to be considerate. Especially to the people who matter. Don't make them wait. Unless of course something more important is at hand. Lior, if there's anything I tried to inculcate to you and to your papa is the value of consideration. When you consider someone else's feelings or schedules or prior engagements, you show them that you care about their time. Time is the one of the best gifts you can give to anyone because it's something you could never take back.
- Be patient. I know how old this saying is but I know and I can attest that patience is the key to everything. Before having you my love, I was so desperate for a change because my life seemed so monochromatic (For the lack of a better word) Everything felt so dull and tiring. That why I constantly prayed to God for a change that will turn everything upside down. But I had to wait you know! And not just the 9 months I had you in my tummy, I had to wait long before that. Nothing ever felt right anymore. A new day was not something I looked forward to. Although to tell you honestly, I never even thought of killing myself and please I hope you never will too! Do not even think about it even just for a minute! And so I waited. I waited and waited and waited and waited and then come you. My saving grace.
- Blood is always thicker than water. Family always comes first. They are the epitome of love. Unconditional love is shared and passed on to every families. Which is why, you always have to hold on to them a little tighter in your heart. When things get worse, families are at your back. They will support you every step of the way, guide you in whatever you want to be and help you become the person you were made to be. Having a family is one of the most underrated yet most glorious things. We always take them for granted, thinking that they're here to spend forever when we only have them for a limited time. We have to be thankful for having such great support system. Being part of a family is the best blessing.
- You will get your heart into tiny little shattered pieces before you meet someone you're sure to spend a lifetime with. Before I met your papa, there were a hundred of crushes and a few flings. I got hurt and jealous and paranoid and had a heart full of hatred. I hated it. I hated love for a brief period. But when I met papa, I regained everything. None of what I felt before made sense. He made everything and I hope you find someone who makes you feel like what your papa made me feel.
- Always be humble. No one likes a show-off and more than that, it is rude to brag. You can never possess anything that will give you the right to brag. Keep your feet stapled to the ground.
Buling, I know that most of these lessons are lessons that you have to learn by yourself. I want you to know that Mama has been there too. We all have to go through situations that will polish us to become better. If things go hard, it will eventually get better (Another lesson!) And always always remember that mama will always be behind you whenever you need her. I love you to infinity and beyond and even so much more beyond that.
Love always, Mama
